tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29109752791794032.post8711898561684308542..comments2023-11-17T01:32:25.790+00:00Comments on Aleksandr Voinov - Letters from the Front: The genetics of our writingAleksandr Voinovhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06583805228909693924noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29109752791794032.post-37175597712415276772012-07-19T20:57:57.219+01:002012-07-19T20:57:57.219+01:00This made me laugh...
Few days ago, I tried to ex...This made me laugh... <br />Few days ago, I tried to explain friend why I didn't like one m/m romance that is favorite and it's #1. You said it so much better. I want to read romance between two guys, not m/f romance in disguise. Don't emasculate men in m/m romances, please...Guys just don't do certain things. Like think about bruising, for example. Over description of feelings or overthinking in arousing state is another favorite of mine. Guys think like guys and sometimes there isn't much going through their head in sexy moments or they have thoughts that won't endear them to female readers always. They are guys, not girls with penises. But I don't blame it on sex or genetics,it depends on writer: like YA writer who gave his 15 year old character thoughts of 35 year old woman. <br />Kudos to Mana Francis from me, too, her Val Toreth is one of my favorite character.Lege Artishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16537872230785578719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29109752791794032.post-77583809636850385642012-07-18T16:01:19.713+01:002012-07-18T16:01:19.713+01:00I've come across the bruising-thing a few time...I've come across the bruising-thing a few times and it always stuck me as weird (unless we're talking BDSM or one character being significantly stronger than the other). Personal experience probably because I don't bruise that easily.<br /><br />While I've read some het-romances and a lot of m/m-romances and probably even more slash I'm not always too fond of the tropes and stereotypes found in them, yet I'm aware that readers maybe expect them. But maybe they are like me and don't want them. For example, I'm still looking for a BDSM-het-romance that has a dominant female. <br /><br />Like you I come more from the SF/F-books with gay characters in them direction. Right now I'm rereading Tanya Huff and I'm sure books like that influenced and still influence me a lot more than most (het)-romances do. But I'm pretty sure I was equally as strongly influenced by all the slash I've been reading. <br /><br />One difference between gay porn and m/m (or slash) that I noticed, is also word-choices. Like cock versus dick. Or words like chute. From what I've read the language in gay porn (het porn too btw) is a lot more direct and to the point. Het romances used to be very good at being descriptive and avoiding direct terminology. It's gotten better, but occasionally one still stumbles across the 'spears of pleasure' and 'grottos of lust' :-D. I once even read the spears thing in a gay romance about Greek soldiers. It just cracked me up and I couldn't finish the book because I just couldn't take it seriously. <br /><br />For me as a writer it also depends in what language I'm writing in. In German I write differently than in English.<br /><br />I think culture and the cultural definition of gender also influences a writer more strongly than the actual biological gender. In addition to the things we read which at least at an early age and all the way through school are again defined by the culture we grow up in and by what's available. Things are changing now thanks to the internet and the broadening of our horizons.Runenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29109752791794032.post-2741664258715109852012-07-17T11:38:29.719+01:002012-07-17T11:38:29.719+01:00Oh belss you, you made me laugh!!!
Sadly soo many...Oh belss you, you made me laugh!!! <br />Sadly soo many of what you say are true. The cliches that go around out there are so dead boring that are making it hard for us (readers) to enjoy the genre. Men are being falsly portrayed and most novels tend to focus on sex too much rather than having it be a part of the story. Like another author (Ryan Field) mentioned on one of his blog-threads, there must be a book left even if you remove the sex from the novel. Hard to find i the majority of published books out there.<br />As for bruises, hahaha, yeah, I've been bruised once, but that was not from firm grips, rather from being piss drunk and having slipped off the bed, hitting my body on the nightstand. True, women bruise easier due to our soft tissues, but is unlikely to happen from passionate, firm gropping aye?<br />Anyway, great post, truly enjoyed it.Thomaidhahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10901950373516861280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29109752791794032.post-3368909199526477012012-07-17T08:24:19.271+01:002012-07-17T08:24:19.271+01:00All cliches in one move! Romantic LettersAll cliches in one move! <a href="http://www.sampleletters.org.uk/romantic-letters.html" rel="nofollow">Romantic Letters</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09680687232989598778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29109752791794032.post-80044158863168225242012-07-16T17:15:31.772+01:002012-07-16T17:15:31.772+01:00"What we read and how we read defines who we ...<i>"What we read and how we read defines who we are as authors and how we handle our material - FAR more than the biological gender or even our pseudonyms."</i><br /><br />The paragraph that begins with this sentence pretty much says it all, Aleks. I'd also add personal temperament to the list of determining factors -- and that's a product of nature (genetics) as much as nurture (upbringing and life experience).<br /><br />By the way, that bruising trope is news to me, and I <i>have</i> written het romance! It strikes me as more weird than erotic or romantic, at least in a non-BDSM context. o_OK. Z. Snowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01373906799954038740noreply@blogger.com